Fucked up songs

Occasionally, I come across catchy music that I am really enjoying… then I notice the lyrics.  Sometimes they just don’t make sense, but usually the issue is the message in the music.   “That’s fucked up!”, I mutter to myself, hopefully inaudibly.  I’ve noticed a trend, my friends.  Invariably, these songs are about women, or more accurately disrespecting or abusing women.  There are a lot of ideas that are basically fucked-up, but most of those ideas don’t seem to make the top 40 charts like a good misogyny tune.  You never, for instance, hear metal power ballads about suicide bombing, or country songs about denying citizenship to babies of undocumented immigrants…. or rap songs about denying science in favor of kitschy Christianity.  Damn, ok, there’s that Magnet Song by Insane Clown Posse, but that wasn’t really a hit.

Sadly, there’s rarely anyone around me willing to discuss the general fucked-uppitiness of all this.  (Yes, wordpress, fucked-uppitiness IS a word, and it has nothing to do with fruitiness.  fucked-fruitiness is a HORRIBLE suggestion!)  Anyway, here are my top 5 least-favorite fucked up songs about women.  Behold, and let there be discussion!!!!


5) 99 Problems– Jay-Z does have a problem… with women. Way to go women, you showed him he can’t get away with that!  He was probably never able to get a date again!  … Beyonce?  Oh, right.  Shit.  Maybe she never heard it? Good luck, Baby Blue.

4) Every Breath You  Take– The Police can’t help you.  They are the ones watching you.  This IS the stalker anthem.


3) Baby It’s Cold Outside– Various people have popularized this catchy song, which wikipedia describes as ‘The Date Rape Song’.  Seriously, “What’s in this drink?” is one of the lyrics.  Firmly in the Fucked-Up category.


2) Delilah– Tom Jones just murdered his girlfriend?  What the hell.  Ok, hell of a voice, but that’s still fucked up.  You don’t get to murder your girlfriend because she’s a skank, even if you’re Tom Jones.  ESPECIALLY, if you’re Tom Jones. Mr. Skank, incarnate.


1)You and Me (In my Pocket)– Milow hasn’t resorted to violence… YET.  Probably SHOULD be the stalker anthem, and it’s seriously creepy… and yes, fucked-up!


Discuss, damn you.  Discuss, I say!  I’m sure there are plenty of other examples.  What songs do you love to hate?


Author: patrixmyth

8 thoughts on “Fucked up songs

  1. When I was a young teenager, I played ‘Every Breath You Take’ for my mother without thinking too carefully about the lyrics. She was appalled, and pointed out what you’ve also noticed.

    It’s sad that this is not only so prevalent in pop music, but not even noticed most of the time. It’s so commonplace that no-one bats an eye.

  2. One of my favorites is Cemetery by a Canadian band called Headstones. “Went down to the cemetery looking for love; got there and my baby was buried. Had to dig her up.” It goes on to mention that “these kinds of things deteroriate” and “she’s embalmed in love juice” also.

      1. They’re actually a really good band; their first 3 albums were excellent (not all their songs are fucked up). Their live shows were epic, they did the best cover version of an ABBA song I’ve ever heard. I fondly remember waking up after a show in Vancouver with a boot print shaped bruise in the middle of my back. Good times.

  3. I don’t remember any to-do at all in my corner of the world about “Every Breath You Take” by The Police when it was originally released. That was 1983 though, and both times and attitudes have changed quite a bit. It almost seems like a lot of classic songs get “grandfathered” out of the outrage, much like old movies or shorts often do for scenes that were acceptable at the time but would be considered very offensive now.

    1. I definitely noticed when it came out, but I’ve always been a bit obsessive about listening to lyrics. Still a huge fan of Police and Sting, btw. Although they DID almost make the list twice with ‘Don’t Stand So Close to Me’.

  4. The Bad Touch. The refrain scared me when I first heard this. Did I mention I was a seventh grade Catholic girl when this song came out?

    1. i never noticed that one, but after a quick YouTube perusal, yeah, it’s got a few disturbing images hidden in the pop culture references. Welcome!

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